Reconnecting you with relational
authenticity & genuine intimacy
"We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship."
-Harville Hendrix
Relational Psychotherapy
This video provides an in-depth perspective into how I approach relational work. Please note that at this time, I am no longer accepting new clients for individual psychotherapy.
I believe that the most successful relationships support each partner’s greatest well-being and welcome the fullest expression of each person’s most authentic self. Because relationships are often our earliest sources of wounding, the attachment and ego-based issues that arise in partnership present opportunities for our greatest sources of healing if we are willing to utilize them as mirrors, teachers, and vehicles for transformation.
I will create safety and invite awareness to help you transcend surface-level conflicts, habitual patterns, and defensive armoring in order to arrive at a greater depth of intimacy and authentic connection within yourselves and with each other. There is an opportunity to move beyond viewing the relationship merely as a source of happiness but as a profound container for growth, awakening, and co-creation.
I work with all forms of relationships but am particularly passionate about supporting those who are exploring or participating in non-traditional relationship structures such as ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, relationship anarchy and kink. I am also very comfortable working with couples on the brink requiring discernment counseling or those who are navigating conscious uncoupling.
Rates
Initial Consultations / Intakes (60 min).............$180
Relational Psychotherapy (90 min)..................$270
Relational Psychotherapy (120 min)................$360
As I believe strongly in the healing power of relationships, the one that we form together is of critical importance. I offer a full session 60-minute consultation that is billed for only if we decide to move forward in working together. My hope is that this allows us an opportunity to get more of a felt sense of what it would be like to work together and to better assess mutual fit.
About Melissa
I know well the pain of losing yourself in relationships and the confusion that comes with disentangling from distorted power dynamics and “is this your stuff, or mine?” enmeshment. I am deeply acquainted with the journey of recovering a sense of soul and truth while sifting through the messy terrain of cultural and ancestral conditioning. I remain deeply engaged in this process for myself in service of all beings in my relational field as it has proven to be the most liberating and fulfilling endeavor of my life.
My style of therapy is intuitive, direct and constructive. I will challenge you to sink a level deeper into more honest intimacy and orient you towards the life force energy and transformation that is yearning to emerge from within. I believe that relationships hold up mirrors to our blind spots in need of the most care and nurturance, and I strive to train my own awareness consistently so that I may have the ability to listen deeply and attune accordingly.
While I draw inspiration from a wide range of therapeutic and holistic healing modalities, my own deep study of the dynamic forces and natural cycles of yin and yang, shadow and light, moon and sun form the foundation of my practice. I am deeply committed to and fervent about my work, because I adamantly believe that collective healing begins with healing in our relationships.
Outside of my identity as a therapist, I am someone who is drawn to oceanic depths, intensity, and the mystical, magical realms. I am someone who has been cracked open before by grief and humbled by the trappings of ego time and time again. I am also someone who holds immense faith in the aliveness and power that resides on the other side of these initiations in our lives.
I am a Virgo Sun, Cancer Moon, and Capricorn Rising who hosts epic dinner parties but still struggles to not take everything so goddamn seriously. I feel most myself when I am dancing wildly and when I am sitting in deep connection and reverence with others — including my clients. I am extraordinarily fortunate and grateful to get to do the work that I do and live the life that I live.
Training / Areas of Study
Psychodynamic, Relational, Experiential, Somatic, Transpersonal,
Emotionally Focused Therapy, Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy,
Kundalini Yoga, Yin Yoga, Usui Reiki Ryoho
Get in Touch
If you are interested in working with me and scheduling a consultation, please fill out the form below.
For all other inquiries, you can reach me at melissa@mchenpsychotherapy.com
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